I recently was chatting with a buddy about eWrestling. I was trying to get him to write a column, well, because he has an unique perspective on eWrestling in general and has a ton of experience. Being a fed head or high up in the inter-fed community for the better part of ten years, I look to him for motivation to continue in our hobby while continuing to have fun. I poked and prodded, trying to figure out his secret when in reality it was very simple and when I think about it, contains the core values I have always kept when partaking in the fed head portion of the game. For the most that is, because when I start straying away from the points he made I find myself burning out and not caring.
However, his words were like a slap in the face that has awaken me. I wanted to put them down so that anytime I’m feeling like I’m not making a difference I can come back and look at this article. Hell, I couldn’t wait to start writing this, that’s how powerful his three golden rules are. I only hope someone else can read this and take away from it what I have. Remember, this is a game and something each and everyone of us do to escape from reality and, well, just enjoy.
Without further ado, here are the three golden rules that let you have fun running a successful fed. Please, leave feedback, let us know what works for you if these core values don’t hit it on the head in your case.
- Stop being such a bitch and put in some work.
- Only work with staff members you would trust not to fuck your wife.
- Don’t allow assholes like me to tell you you’re doing it wrong.
That was his words of wisdom to me, and man were they what I needed to hear, especially right now. Starting a new site, or helping start one, is one of the most stressful times in our game. What if people don’t like it? What if no one cares? What if people think you are doing it wrong? All worries that come with the territory, and have been running through my head the last few days since the launch of eW Spot.
Lets break them down now, and really dig into what makes these three core values important.
Stop being such a bitch and put in some work.
Is this not true, or is it not true? Boy. No eFed, resource site, or community will ever succeed nor give you the enjoyment you should get out of a hobby you choose to partake in if you don’t put work in. When you first have an idea, there is a process to getting it off the ground. Design, flow, how do you want it to run. But it doesn’t stop there, and can’t. I know I personally get to a point once something has launched I want it just to run itself.
Wouldn’t that be nice?
But, as the value says, you have to man (or woman) up and continue to put work in. The only way you are going to keep something like this afloat is by contently putting new content out and putting your work out for people to see. If you visit an eFed and they haven’t had any website updates in three months, what would you think? No, when visiting sites people want to see new stuff, and on a regular basis. But how do you even get people to your site? You have to promote. Whether it’s through social media, advertising post, or affiliating with people it is an important part of running a fed or site, and can’t be done just once.
It’s ongoing, as tedious as it can feel at times. Word of mouth only goes so far. But it isn’t just about making sure you are providing fresh content or advertising often, but putting work in on your end results. You can’t just let things happen whenever, there are deadlines, and people expect to see end results on a regular basis so they know when something will be available. When you start to feel complacent in life and not pushing forward, remember to quit being a bitch and put that extra work in. Because in the end, the more work you put in, the more attention you will get. Of course we all know this is a hobby of boosting egos, that attention is what you are seeking and that makes you actually want to continue.
Only work with staff members you would trust not to fuck your wife.
Trust in those you rely on is what this boils down to. I used to maintain the motto “If I don’t do it myself, it wont get done (right).” Guess where that got me each and every time? Burnt out and/or pissed off. In a nutshell, not having fun. Running an eFed or site is tough, and requires a lot of work (see number one above). Unless you don’t have a job and/or family or a real life to attend to, maybe you’ve found yourself feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders and considering just stopping.
Find others with the same outlook you have, trust me they are out there. Connect with those who want to also have fun and have the same end game vision. But don’t stop there. No, if you do then you risk ending up back where you started. How many times have you worked with someone, deadline is coming up and they are nowhere to be found? or they just decide to say “fuck it” and move on without telling you? This is where you need to take that group of people with a similar outlook and weed out the ones who you really can’t trust to be there when you need them most.
It’s the people you can fully trust, and that share your goals, that will work with you, and put in an equal share of work (discussed in number one). The work is tedious and is what no one enjoys doing over an extended period of time. If you can find that trustworthy partner, or partners, to split that work up then everyone has less on their plate to do, and more to enjoy. This is what helps extend the life of a fed or site, thus extending your enjoyment and what you contribute to the hobby.
Don’t allow assholes like me to tell you you’re doing it wrong.
This was written from him to me, but goes the other way around. Everyone has opinions, everyone. This means not everyone will agree with what you are doing or how you are doing it. Don’t let them sway you from what you feel is right. I’m not saying to not listen objectively and maybe take into consideration some things they are saying, but in the end you are doing you for you. This is your hobby for you to have fun, just as it is theirs. Maybe what works for them elsewhere is great for them, but you keep doing you.
Once you start letting people tell you you are doing it wrong then you are conforming to standards you don’t agree with. This is true in real life, if you aren’t being true to yourself your happiness declines. In our hobby once that happens then the overall quality of your project drops, and so does the fun factor that brought you to this point to begin with.
Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. It’s up to you to judge what opinions might benefit you and what to let float out of the other ear as it is nothing but something to kill your vibe.
These are just three things that help you have fun while running a successful eFed or site, there’s others and we’ll expand on them as time goes on. But I can guarantee if you stick to these as your base, you’ll be enjoying this game for so much longer and giving the hobby something to remember.